In the third case, the couple were able to totally keep their relationship out of the workplace but that meant no displays of affection (or worse closing the office door and having sex where the other employees could hear you), no special treatment in favor of the employee(in fact her promotions got held up and she was held to a much higher standard than the rest of the team), no insider information, and no acting as if you were more important because you were having an affair with the boss.In the worst case, the company lost several valuable employees because they couldn't stand to be managed by the secretary the CEO promoted to be the Project Manager because he was having an affair with her.If I've changed it too much from your original question, feel free to edit it further or roll back the changes. Dating subordinates is almost always a bad idea, except when it's a great idea. Other employees may end up resentful and there will be a drop of productivity if so.Likely you will treat her differently than the others such as giving her information that she in her current position should not have, refusing to see her performance problems, etc.
There are several different types of workplace romance policies you can put into place depending on the size and nature of your organization: Image source: HR.
You can rail against the unfairness of it all, but think of it this way: If life were fair, you wouldn't be in this dilemma, and the arrow would have pierced the heart of someone nice who works for the company across the street.
Will you be peering around corners to make sure your former love isn't in the hall and avoiding the company picnic for fear your ex will flaunt a new love interest? Before you throw your next promotion to the wind, here are five reasons dating your coworker might not be such a good idea. Reality Unfortunately, this is not a tale by the Brothers Grimm, so you can't count on a happy ending.
1) Just Say No You can set a flat no dating policy that prohibits consorting between co-workers – this should cover not only dating, but sexual contact as well.
In this age of casual hook-ups, many people get together without ever “dating” and this can cause problems for you, particularly if one or both of the consorting staffers are married. Also consider adding clients and vendors to the hands off policy.